Tanja Diamond, “The Tantra Teacher” , ACTE, C.Ht, NLP, CHSH, a Life Mastery expert who has been working in the field of transformation and human sexuality for the past 25 years. Tanja teaches that living in full arousal of everything life has to offer is key to health and wellness. As the creator of Modern Tantra ™, she and her team empower and educate people all over the globe to live lives more completely and more fully engaged. Tanja’s practical approach and her use of humor to make the sometime awkward subject of sex and spirituality educational and fun is refreshing and delightful. Tanja says “sex is not a luxury; it’s an integral part of our everyday life. Sexual energy is a creative force that keeps us mentally and physically healthy. Sexual empowerement is about living your life to it’s fullest”. We at my6secrets.com can’t argue with that! I enjoyed speaking with Tanja and I think you will enjoy reading her 6secrets for a more fun and committed relationship.
“Take Charge of your own arousal”
1. Supercharge your Interest and Arousal: Breathing together and eye gazing – People spend little time looking at their partner and feeling tender towards them. It is a difficult exercise at first, look into one another’s eyes, not speaking but showing your feelings through your eyes as you breathe in unison. Breathing deep from the belly. This exercise builds and strengthens the feeling of connection and safety with your partner. “ Women especially cannot surrender to pleasure unless they feel safe”.
2. Auditory Expression in the Bedroom: Women have dialog going on in their heads during intimacy. It is important to keep her in the present and focused on the experience rather than what she is thinking. A man should lead his partner on a verbal journey. Tell her what he is experiencing and what he is finding pleasurable. He will have a much more willing and excitable partner.
3. Make your Man a Success in the Bedroom: When a woman participates in the experience, audibly or through body language it gives him a guide on how to please you. “ lead him on the journey of success “ When she participates it keeps her in the present and keeps him on the track that she needs him on. Men need to feel trusted to fully enjoy intimacy.
4. Be Vulnerable and Brave : Ask for what you need! Tension stifles energy. Communicating out-loud during intimacy is imperative. There should be many types of sounds and gestures so that both partners understand what is working and what isn’t. Love talk during sex is stimulating and pleasurable for both.
5. Tantra Sexual Techniques: Men can learn to have multiple orgasms , women can learn how to have free flowing orgasms rather than tension release organsms. Learn to expand your capacity for pleasure and explore your ability to open yourself more and more to pleasure in intimacy.
6. Don’t Wait for the Mood: “Fake it ‘til you make it works!” Make a commitment to make love every day for 30 days. Schedule time for it, touch often when you are together, flirt, be playful. “The more you make love the better it gets, use it or lose it is true “ Keep the sexual arousal flowing at all times”.
