Psychic Sex AKA thinking your partner should KNOW what you want them to do is one of the most common sexual glitches couples regularly practice. Every person will react differently to various stimuli and without feedback from your partner, you will never know how to please them in the Ultimate sense. Add to it that sometimes what worked two weeks ago isnt working now and that is often for women due to a change in their hormonal cycle and for either partner stress.
Have a conversation outside the bedroom, or preferred place, while you are vertical not horizontal about what you might like to, are dying to try with your partner. Why? Because this allows you to bring up what may be a sensitive subject without the pressure to have to try something. It also lets your most powerful sex organ, your brain get involved. Creativity knows no bounds.
When you are guiding in the act, use one word rather than a sentence to guide. Why? One word, softer is heard as direction, while a sentence, Oh I want it to be softer. is often heard as judgment. Talk about the one word suggestions during your out of the bedroom talk so your partner knows exactly what that one word is telling them. Here are some suggestions: slow, up, yes, softer, you get the picture.
For the verbally shy sometimes the best feedback is a change of breathing or a sound (unless you really do the moaning stay in your body and out of the film scenario) that indicates theyve hit the right place or used your preferred stroke/touch.Think of this as road map to pleasure. So a new, clearer, non-judgmental style of communication will do more for your sexual experience and connection than just about anything. And a willing partner will be motivated and uniquely wired to experience each sensation you create!
