My6Secrets.com

How Do You Keep Your Committed Relationship Fun and Exciting?




Posts Tagged ‘Foreplay’

Pat Davis| From Stress Out to Make Out

Sunday, February 28th, 2010

The My6Secrets.com team had the pleasure of interviewing Pat Davis, President of Passion Parties, LLC.  Pat has been at the head of the corporation for the last 9 years.  Passion Parties is North America’s largest and premier party planning company selling passion and intimate romance products.  More than 1.2 million women attend Passion Parties annually which infers that Pat has some pretty good tips on how to keep a committed relationship passionate and fun!

“From the Stress- Out to the Make- Out”
1.     Open Communication and Open Mind: “It is a myth that great sex comes from great techniques, great sex comes from partners that are open and willing to try new things, communicate openly and honestly and keep the fun aspect in the mix” Foreplay starts in the morning , women respond best to pre-heating, the morning is a perfect time to set a sexy tone for the day.

2.    The Right Equipment for the Job: “ Studies indicate that 76% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, the right toy can keep the clitoris stimulated during intercourse and can often times provide an opportunity for the woman to have simultaneous orgasms with her man” “ Relax and enjoy it, it isn’t rocket science ! “  “ Adding fun stimulating accessories to intimacy opens up new way of enjoying one another”

3.    It’s the Little Things that Count: “Finding creative ways to reconnect with your partner doesn’t mean elaborate it means thoughtful”  “ Try a date night without spending the money , maybe a  bottle of wine on the front lawn to watch the stars and talk.” “Leaving little reminders where you partner is certain to find them like notes or tokens that remind him\her of the two of you. Connecting with your partner like you did in the beginning is the goal”

4.    Talk, Talk, Talk ! : The sexiest muscle in the body is the tongue, Pat suggests that while it is useful for many things in committed relationships, open honest communication – small talk – fun talk, sexy talk, funny talk, all add up to two people that enjoy spending time together.  Talking about what you each enjoy most about sex with the other, or what you really enjoy during intimacy is key to long lasting healthy relationships.

5.    The Big 5: Sound, Sight, Smell, Touch, and Taste.   Pleasure always begins with heightened  senses whether it be a wonderful meal or a wonderful night of sex with your lover.  “Bring as many of these as possible into the bedroom” Vibrant , awakened senses are not only relaxing but  bring sensuality to the forefront.

6.    Discover and Nurture the Sexy YOU! : “ Being sexy has everything to do with how you feel and think, not how you look” “ We love our partner’s to act confident in the bedroom, that is a sexual go button for both men and women”  “ Feeling sexy starts with pampering yourself and learning what turns you on first, a confident lover that can show their partner around their  body is a total turn on “

Melody Brooke| Everything is Foreplay

Sunday, February 28th, 2010

Melody Brooke  MA, LPC, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of “ This is Great Sex Workbook”   Melody is founder of the non-profit group CompassionMovement.org which helps trauma victims and families in conflict and has many years of experience working with couples. Melody has been published in magazines, professional journals and in multiple places on the web including askdanandjennifer.com, a wildly popular dating site where she is a regular contributor. Melody shared with us her six best kept secrets for a fun committed relationship.
1.    Everything is Foreplay:  Every interaction you have with your partner during the day is foreplay.  Recognizing that your mood and tone transfer to your partner and ultimately into the intimacy of the relationship.  Helping to manage one another’s stress by being a compassionate listener or helping with everyday chores will always set the tone for opportunity and intimacy.
2.     Kisses are Important :  Every time you leave one another taking a moment to have skin to skin contact reinforces that  your partner is important to you and improves every couples health , both physically and emotionally.   Men in particular are taught at an early age to be “touch deprived” which can have negative impact on relationships.  Skin to skin contact can increase the development of a chemical in your body called Oxytocin which increases blood flow, releases endorphins and can provide an overall sense of wellness and extended life.
3.    Set a Bedtime and keep it :  Going to bed together at the same every night gives couples a daily opportunity for one-on –one time ( sexual or not.)  Couples spend on average 6 minutes each day communicating with one another which is not nearly enough for a healthy relationship to thrive and flourish.  Having this alone time in a secure comfortable place will extend the time you communicate.  Intimate communication naturally increases during this time and studies show that physical communication is more important than verbal communication for general relationship health.
4.    Always Sleep Naked : Whether or not you are planning on having sex sleeping naked will increase the opportunity for sexual intimacy with less fan fare and pressure.  It allows for spontaneity and fun, even if you are not in the mood being naked together suggests that you are more likely to have sex more often.
5.    Empathy and Compassion : Showing your partner that you are compassionate and not defensive re-enforces that  “ nothing is personal”  Everyone comes with some level of baggage, most “ hang ups” are often times the result of some past experience which is projected upon our partners. Understanding your partners past experiences and biases can help you develop this empathy for your partner builds trust in the relationship.   Trust leads to more open intimacy and can be transferred to the bedroom later.
6.    Play Together : Life is difficult.,….. a lot of work.  If you don’t play and find enjoyment in your life together you will not see the value in staying together.  Play makes life worth living, Do things together that you both enjoy or have interest in learning about.  Make your play time together a priority in your life !

Newsletter

Get instant updates, news and coupons by signing up for the My6Secrets.com Newsletter