As an interviewer for My6Secrets.com we had the pleasure of speaking with Daylle Deanna Schwartz, M.S. author , relationship counselor , and public speaker known for her views on self -empowerment. Her popular books include Nice Girls Can Finish First, All Men are Jerks until Proven Otherwise , and How to Please a Woman In & Out of Bed. Daylle has been a guest on over 300 TV and radio shows, including :
•Oprah • Good Morning America • Howard Stern • Inside Edition • Strategy Room with Alan Combes • BBC • Fox News • CNN • Maury Povich • KTLA Morning News (Los Angeles) • Z-Morning Zoo (New York) • Joey Reynolds (WOR) • Candace Bushnell (Sirius radio) • Montel Williams • America in the Morning with Jim Bohannon
Daylle’s soft spoken frank approach to sexual intimacy is refreshing, down to earth and for our purposes perfect for My6Secrets.com.
1. Connect – Connecting with your partner is so very important. “Men often complain that their woman requires so much attention when in fact what a woman is truly seeking is a connection with her lover/ partner” “Feeling connected outside of the bedroom builds trust and intimacy in the bedroom.” Daylle suggests that partners take a few moments daily to lightly touch, make eye contact, emotionally connect when sex is not the immediate outcome. “women often feel that the only time their men feel the need or desire to connect is in the bedroom, what they must understand is that connecting outside the bedroom will make intimacy a much better experience for both partners”
2. Show Appreciation – “Let your partner know that you appreciate them, men love to be complimented too!” “It is often difficult for men to express that they need to be complimented, women elicit compliments much more easily.” “Men have insecurities about how well endowed they are or if their woman finds them sexy, women likewise need to feel sexy to act sexy” “Simply put, the better you feel about yourself, the more open you will be to enjoy and express yourself during sex..”
3. Anticipation – “Creating a feeling of anticipation goes a long way in the development of a strong healthy sex life” The idea here is to create a build-up to sex, “ send an email, leave a post-it-note hinting to a weekend of romance. Provocative looks or subtle touches at times when sex is not an option leaving your partner anticipating a very special experience as soon as the opportunity presents itself”
4. Be Verbal – Expressing your feelings during sex tells your partner that what they are doing pleases you. “ Men tend to be in the moment during sex while women are not, a woman may feel insecurity about performing certain things such as fellatio, encouraging comments from her partner will put her at ease and let her know that what she is doing is working for him“ “The more verbal you are during intimacy the more confident your partner will be, it is much like the adrenaline rush that an athlete feels when being cheered on during competition – being open and verbal will drive your partner to want to please you more “
5. Personalize – The magic word is YOU! “ YOU make me feel so good or YOU do that so well makes it about the person and not the act. “ Using the word you before these types of sentences says to your partner I like this because YOU are doing it”
6. Clit Radar – For a majority of women the clit is the focal point for orgasm. “ It is always good to stimulate the clitoris during foreplay as well as intercourse – both partners should
